Remember to only pour one cup of beer when asking them to fullfill a funeral position. When you pour two cups, it means you are asking them to ua tshoob ua kug or ua dlaab ua qhua
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Traditionally for everyone you want to full fill a position (ua dlej ua num ), you are suppose to go ask the person at their house. For the son-laws (thov qhua) its okay to use the phone, traditionally they live far so this is okay
However howadays we mostly ask the person at the place of the deceased home or over the phone
Traditionally it's the responsiblity of the family to go and thov each person for each position
However today many families ask the Kaav Xwm to do this job
Understanding Status when calling people into positions________
Thov puab txais dlej num ___________________________________________
pouring one cup and say
tas peb tes xaab tau txuj zoo los tsi tau txuj zoo,
peb ( name of decensed ) noj tsi qaab noj tsi zoo,
luas tas zej zog txawm dlaav los tub txib tub
los txawm nqaim
es peb tsi pum qaab yuav zug yuav vaam koj lub dlaag lub zug
vaam koj lub kev txawj kev ntse kev paub, tuaj paab ua tug qhuab ke taws kev
qha nwg kaab moog cuag puj kev moog cuag yawm
es yuav muab koj laub moog txuj tswv kev los thov koj paab peb nawv
If you end up asking the person over the phone or at another place not inside his home, You add the following words.
Tag tag mas txuj kaab txuj kev tes peb tau tuab has koj ib lu lug huv vaam huv tsev mas txaj yog
tab si txawm yog has tas peb ntswb koj twg has koj twg, luas tas ntswb yaag kev has yaag kev, ntswb yaag ncua has yaag ncua, los koj xob xaav li caag
tsi yog has tas peb saib tsi taug koj peb laag taug laag ua, tag tag tes txuj kaab txuj yeej yog le ntawv, tsi siv peb nyam khov yooj yim
tes ntswb koj twg has koj twg los koj xob xaav le caag es koj xob tso peb tseg hab, es kos koj paab peb
The person will respond with some words of which you respond back with
Koj xob xaav le caag, tag te koj has yeej yog lug tab sis mas
luas tas zej zog txawm los tub txiv tub khaiv los txawm,
tug kws txawj kws paub tsi muaj pis tsaug tug
es peb los tsi pum qaab ntshab, xaav tas yeej yog khawg rua koj xwb es yuav vaam koj tuaj moob paab peb
Once the person agrees, you npe the person, pour another drink and say the phase
cawv tsi ntev rua koj nawv
Thov tug Coj Xai ___________________________________________
It's the full responsiblity of the family to ask and Tam the Coj Xai
You must seat the person your asking alone with their wife
Asking at the begining of the funeral or before the funeral can begin
Tso dlej num rua puab ___________________________________________
There is a table that is set and the family must ask again each person in each position to complete their position. The words are almost exact to the words above, but you add a few more words to the end
Traditionally if you have not complete the first process of asking them to except the position, ie.. the family has not poured a beer for them yet (thov tau, kuas tsi tau haus cawv dlaab num),
the pereson will refuse to sit in the seat mentioned above or to even to enter the funeral home. This normally happens when the person comes from far away.
A family member must pour them a cup and say words similair to the ones above about how we are suppose to have asked them at home
Then the Kaav Xwm will proceed with the words in this next phrase
However today people are more lenient and will not mind this
It is the responsibility of the family to say this to the Kaav Xwm, then the Kaav Xwm will be task to say this to the rest of the people in the rest of the positions
Except for the Coj Xai, the family is responsible for everything related to the Coj Xai
The additional words are ...
tas peb tsev xyom cuab tes xaab tau txuj zoo los tsi tau txuj zoo,
peb ( name of decensed ) noj tsi qaab noj tsi zoo,
luas tas zej zog txawm dlaav los tub txiv tub khaiv los txawm nqaim
Do we say this part????
yuav vaam koj lub dlaag lub zug, vaam koj kev txawj kev paub kev ntse
tuaj coj noj coj haus tuaj nthe saib nthe qeg
tuaj rheg ib puas tsaav yaam
tsev xyob cuab maub plaub muab ntug muab saiv muab lug, muab kev cov nyom le caag
los yuav vaam koj tuaj nrug cheem nrug has
los koj ua kaav xwm koj ua sab luj, tshuav peb xyom cuab, muab ab tsi los ntsug peb thaam
es yuav muab koj laub moog txuj tswv kev los, thov koj ua sab ntev es koj xob tso peb tseg koj paab peb
The Kaab Xwm says this part to the rest of the people with positions
tas nub nua ( name of decensed ) noj tsi qaab noj tsi zoo
es peb vaam koj moog ua tug qhaub ke
tuaj qha nwg kaab moog cuag puj kev moog cuag yawm
es yuav muab koj laub moog txuj tswv kev los thov koj ua sab ntev es koj paab peb
nub nua koj tuaj ua es teb miv tub miv nyuas tug twg tsi paub taab yog has lug sab lug qeg rua koj los
koj xob tu sab koj xob moog tsev
yog leej twg has lug sab lug qeg tua koj nua los tshuav kuv kaav xwm, es muab ab tsi los koj has rua kuv
muab ab tsi los koj maab lug saib lug khu, es yog kuv khu tsi tau lawv los kuv tso kev koj le moog tsev
Addition words
zej zoom txawm dlaav
tuab neeg coob
yuav zaam nyog koj nyob
pauj dlaab pauj qhua
quas zej zoom txawm dlaav
tuab neeg nqaim
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