Positions when a son is getting married
Find someone to fullfill these positions
Nrhav Txiv Tuam Mej Koob, Lwm Mej Koob, Phis Laaj, Ris Nraa, Nam Ua Luag (nam txais Ntsuab).
Txiv Tuam Mej & Lwm Mej Koob - Speakers for the groom's family during the bargaining phase
Phis Laaj - Grooms partner, somewhat like the best man, aub lub pob choj
The priority is to find someone closely related to the groom. It should be someone who is a younger brother (Kwv or Npawg). Never an older brother.
If someone can't be found a friend or son can be used but they must be younger then the groom
Ris Nraa - Carries the basket, aub lub Kaum
Can be anyone who is willing to help you out
Nam Ua Luag (Nam Txais Ntsuab) - female to accompany the brige to never leave her side during the wedding
traditionally used to guard the bride so no older boyfriends of other people to try lure her away
traditionally this duty falls on one of the grooms unmarried sisters. But can be a female relative
Nam Txiv -
Can be an uncle or grandparent in relationship to the groom, should never be the grooms parents or direct
the role of this position is to represent the parents and answer any question as the parents should. This position can be asked to resolve some issues that may come up if
one should come up during the wedding
Reference Meeting 08/07/2022 6. Nam Txiv
Asking someone to fullfill a position
reference meeting 08/07/2022, 11. Asking someone to fullfill a position
If you have only asked them to fullfill a position by phone when the person arrives at your house you will need to ask them again to fullfill the position.
This time you need to pour a pair of beer (two cups) and ask them properly.
Yog xuas lub foos hu xwb nua tes thaum tuaj txug maam laub ib khub cawv rua tes maam rov has dlua le kws yug thov nwg.
Position :
Asking someone to be a Mej Koob
Thov Txiv tuam mej koob
person's name,
kuv tug tub moog coj tau nyaab lug lawm
es xaav thov koj moog paab ua mej koob.
Thov phis laaj, ris nraa, nam ua luag tes has tuab yam le nuav xwb.
Asking someone to fullfill the other positions
When asking someone to fullfill the other positions the words are exactly the same except you change the person's name and position.
Thov phis laaj, ris nraa, nam ua luag tes has tuab yam le nuav xwb.
person's name,
kuv tug tub moog coj tau nyaab lug lawm
es xaav thov koj moog paab ua (position).
Thov puab nrug coj tub hab nyaab moog xaus tshoob has le nuav
After you seat each person with a position at the table
give each person a pair of beer (two cups) and folk with meat
This is what you say to them
Txiv tuam mej koob (npe) nub nua (tug txiv tsev)
nwg tsaa nwg ncej tsev muaj tub nwg muab sev
nwg txhawb nwg nqaaj nthaab muaj tub nwg muab nyaab.
Nwg yuav tso nam ntaab moog ntsawj tsua muv moog ntsawj thoob
tsi pum qaab yuav zug yuav yuav koj lub dlaag lub zug
coj (tug tub) puab nyuas moog xaus tshoob xaus kug, moog laaj nam laaj txiv
yuav muab koj lub plhu txaj plhu ntsig moog ntaiv nub ntaiv hli
moog tiv kev ab kev dlaw los thov koj ua sab quas ntev nawv.
Full Verse
phis laaj (npe) nub nua (tug txiv tsev)
nwg tsaa nwg ncej tsev muaj tub nwg muab sev
nwg txhawb nwg nqaaj nthaab muaj tub nwg muab nyaab.
Nwg yuav tso nam ntaab moog ntsawj tsua nam muv moog ntsawj thoob
tsi pum qaab yuav zug yuav yuav koj lub dlaag lub zug
ntsug (tug tub) moog xaus tshoob xaus kug, moog laaj nam laaj txiv
yuav muab koj lub plhu txaj plhu ntsig moog ntaiv nub ntaiv hli
moog tiv kev ab kev dlaw los thov koj ua sab quas ntev nawv.
The rest of the positions you basically say the same words,
except you change the poistion name and you say the word
"ntsug" instead of the word "coj".
ris nraa (Npe) nub nua (tug txiv tsev)
nwg tsaa nwg ncej tsev muaj tub nwg muab sev
nwg txhawb nwg nqaaj nthaab muaj tub nwg muab nyaab.
Nwg yuav tso nam ntaab moog ntsawj tsua, muv moo ntsawj thoob
tsi pum qaab yuav zug yuav yuav koj lub dlaag lub zug
ntsug (tug tub) moog xaus tshoob xaus kug, moog laaj nam laaj txiv
yuav muab koj lub plhu txaj plhu ntsig moog ntaiv nub ntaiv hli
moog tiv kev ab kev dlaw los thov koj ua sab quas ntev nawv.
nam ua luag (nam txais ntsuab) (Npe) nub nua (tug txiv tsev)
nwg tsaa nwg ncej tsev muaj tub nwg muab sev
nwg txhawb nwg nqaaj nthaab muaj tub nwg muab nyaab.
Nwg yuav tso nam ntaab moog ntsawj tsua nam muv moog ntsawj thoob
tsi pum qaab yuav zug yuav yuav koj lub dlaag lub zug
ntsug (tug tub) moog xaus tshoob xaus kug, moog laaj nam laaj txiv
yuav muab koj lub plhu txaj plhu ntsig moog ntaiv nub ntaiv hli
moog tiv kev ab kev dlaw los thov koj ua sab quas ntev nawv.
Once you have addressed each person and postion as mentioned above
Then you address all of them at once starting with the Mej Koob.
You say the same words as before.
And finally you bow to all of them.
Thaum yug has rua ib tug ib tug tag tes has ib zag rua taag nrho
txhua tug pib txiv tuam mej koob txug rua nam ua luag tes le maam pe.
Cob nkauj kaus
muab nam nkauj kaus coj li nkaus koj quas npaaj
koj tau nam nkauj kaus roog nam nkauj nyaab txiv tshaug teem swv vau moog sawv kaab
muab nam nkauj kaus coj li nkaus koj quas teg
koj coj nam nkauj kaus roog nam nkauj nyaab txiv tshaug teem swv vau moog sawv kev
vaam koj coj nam nkauj kaus moog tiv tshoob tiv kus tiv neej tiv tsaav tiv ntsuab tiv ze
nawb txiv tuam mej koob
Words said to the Mej Koob before they leave for the bride's house
muaj lug sab lug qeg los koj yeej meem laav
muaj yaam kaw yuav tau khu nyaj los koj yeej meem ua rua
koj moog ua tau le caag los peb cov nam txiv yeej ua koj tsaug xwb
nub nua te peb muab tso pluav rua koj nawb
Old material from previous meeting
Old writeup
Postions when a sister is getting married
Txiv Txum Mej Koob Tom Nua - Speaker for the daughter's family during the bargaining phase
Txiv Tuam Mej Koob Tom u - Speaker for the son in law's family
Lwm Mej Koob - the 2nd Mej Koob Speaker for the son in law's family
Kaav xwm - Regulates the event during the day of the wedding, prmarily at the wedding table
Ntau Qhua Laug / Ntau Nco / Qhua Txiv Qhua laug
Yawm - have to can be a txiv ntxawm or yawm laug
Nam Txiv Dlaab
Saib Nug tij
Tais laug txiv laug (Qhua txiv laug)
Cooking and house duties
Ob tug tshwj kaab/ua zaub - head chef/cook
Ob tug nam ua mov
Ob tug Tub tim theej/tub laub cawv - Pours the alchohal during the wedding
When pouring the alcohol. While in the front of the table, always remember if you are on the right or left side of the table.
Remember that you always pour the right cup first before the left cup.
If you are on the right side of the table, you use your left hand to pour.
If you are on the left side you must use your right hand.
Also remember that when you finish pouring and reach the end of the table. Don't head directly back to the front of the table the way you came, along side the table. You must exit the table at the end and go around the back of the seated people then head back to the front.
If you are pouring into a cup and do not fill it all the way you will be required to drink it so always remember to keep you filling kettle full.
Other
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